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Last year, I programmed a Blackberry reminder for Mother’s Day weekend so that it wouldn’t have snuck up on me this year. Whether or not a husband is obligated to buy his wife a Mother’s Day gift is legitimately debatable. In this week’s blog, I have outlined the pros and cons for fathers everywhere when it comes to buying your wife a Mother’s Day gift.
- Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate motherhood and show mothers how much they are appreciated.
- While some may be able to appreciate their mothers alone, others may need to remind themselves that they have more than one mother.
- Women’s mothers deserve gifts, according to some husbands especially. Why do they do that?
Should a husband buy his wife a gift on Mother’s Day?
The ancient Greeks first celebrated Mother’s Day (thanks again!) in springtime to honor Rhea, the goddess mother. We are transported back to medieval England, and we can see servants given time off work to travel home to see their mothers every fourth Sunday of Lent, coinciding with a weekend of family reunions at their ‘Mother Church’ in the congregations before Easter.
The traditions I have read indicate that Mother’s Day should celebrate motherhood for the whole family. So how can it be appropriate for ‘dad’ to be excluded from this celebration?
If there are any confused husbands or partners out there, here are my thoughts on both sides in case you have any questions…
Children should celebrate Mother’s Day.
Besides being a day dedicated to mothers, Mother’s Day is as much about children as it is about mothers. So the kids should decide how they want to celebrate Mother’s Day and let her know how much they love and appreciate her, whether they make pipe cleaner bouquets at nursery, pop-up cards at primary school, or share a Mother’s Day meme on Snapchat.
The purpose of Mother’s Day is to honor mothers, not wives.
Some husbands have mothers, too, and this should be a day when they can give a special thank you to their mothers while their wives can spend time with their children.
On Mother’s Day, husbands should play a supporting role, not take center stage!
As a parent, it is often the case that it falls to Dad to play a supportive role when it comes to the kids’ Mother’s Day presents this year. However, in most cases, whether the support is financial or practical (and more often than not, both), most husbands are already highly involved in the preparations for Mother’s Day without giving a gift themselves to the mother.
The celebration of Mother’s Day is not about romantic love.
The marriage of a husband and wife is an extraordinary marriage celebrated on numerous occasions throughout the year. We do not need a special day to honor Mother’s Day because birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s, Christmas, and many other occasions provide plenty of opportunities for husbands to express their love and appreciation to their wives – we do not need a special day to honor Mother’s Day.
Your wife has other days to be celebrated.
In my opinion, I can understand the need to purchase a gift for your wife on Mother’s Day if this is the only day of the year when you are supposed to celebrate her. As well as Valentine’s Day and her birthday, there is also the opportunity to shower her with thoughtful and romantic gifts during these times. A wedding anniversary is a beautiful opportunity to show your wife how much she means to you. Your mother probably gets lost in the shuffle too often, so maybe Mother’s Day should be dedicated to her.
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She is validated in her role as a family member.
My point is not to belittle women with some machismo mentality but to appreciate what she contributes to your family.
A mother still plays a distinct role in the household, despite many traditional lines disappearing. Only a mother can bring a special touch to the family.
This is a gift that she brings to us, and it is appropriate for us to recognize it.
Her feeling of specialness will be enhanced by it.
Special occasions are usually the only occasions when we show our appreciation. But unfortunately, our busy lives often cause us to overlook one of the most critical aspects of our lives – each other.
Considering that this is our tendency (although it shouldn’t be, and we should work to change this), it is essential to take advantage of the moments when we can express our love for our spouse and make them feel special.
The goal of communication is not to share our thoughts but to understand and make sure our partner understands our hearts.
Your partner might not hear what you say just because you say it. Connecting is the essence of communication.
By making our wife feel special, we make our words more powerful.
When it comes to Mother’s Day gifts, what would be the best to give to a wife?
There is no need to go overboard when giving a gift. I have always treasured small sentimental things, some of the most valuable skills I have ever received.
Every time we celebrate a special occasion, my wife and I exchange cards and letters (along with my flowers). We do not refrain from purchasing gifts. Yes, we do. However, how we express love (and the fact that we are older) tends to influence us to express our love in more sentimental forms. That slot is filled with written words.
Each person receives a gift that is unique to them. For example, a person may like something that another dislike. Hence, you need to know what they like and want when shopping for presents. Gifts that the recipient indeed desires are the perfect gifts.
A card, a bouquet, and a piece of jewelry would be the necessities. The possibilities are endless. We’ve put together a list of thoughtful gifts you might want to give your wife.
You are setting an excellent example for the kids.
A child is an impressionable beings, which is why they are a product of their environment. They pick up so much of their behavior from their parents and how they relate.
Showing your kids the right way to celebrate mother’s day will be your responsibility if you want them to observe it correctly. You can show your wife that mother’s day is a day to appreciate their mother by giving her a gift.
Additionally, the effort you put into getting a gift sets the tone for the effort your kids will put into theirs. For this reason, gestures are not often enough and are best complemented with a gift that goes along with them.
She might speak it as her love language.
Is it okay to give your wife a gift on Mother’s Day? Gifts are part of your wife’s love language, mainly if she receives them.
There is still 1 in 10 women who have received gifts as a love language, despite showing that only 10.5% of women have received them as a love language in this graph from The Loupe. Your wife will appreciate every gift she receives from her loving husband whenever she has a chance to do so if she is one of those women.
The best way to find out if your wife will enjoy receiving gifts from you is to think about the times when you gave her an advantage in the past. For example, it would make her feel extra special and further prove your love if you gave her a gift on mother’s day if she was genuinely happy.
Kids may be too young.
Mother’s Day is when your wife should be celebrated for becoming a mother because they are why she became one. But, in the case of a child who is too young, what happens? Unfortunately, the implications of Mother’s Day are beyond the understanding of a child younger than five years old.
Will your wife have to wait about 4 – 5 years before she is appreciated with macaroni gifts if she only became a mother in the current year? Taking over until your kids can fill the void doesn’t make sense, but you can fix it by stepping in until they can.
It is an excellent reason for a husband to buy his wife a mother’s day gift if he wants her to be celebrated for becoming a mother even before the kids reach the age of puberty.
Is it a good idea to give my wife a gift on Mother’s Day?
Gifts for your wife on Mother’s Day are an excellent idea for several reasons, including:
Make sure you set an excellent example for your children by treating them as you would like them to be treated.
They might be unable to give a good enough gift because they are too young.
Her friends will be able to boast about her.
When your wife feels appreciated and happy, you will enjoy seeing her happy.
You can use this as an incentive for your wife to get you something on Father’s Day.
Receiving gifts might be her love language.
When it comes to Mother’s Day, what is the role of a husband?
As a husband, it is his responsibility to make his wife feel appreciated for being a mother on Mother’s Day, and there are several ways he can accomplish this goal, such as:
- She would generally do the chores so that she could sleep for a more extended period.
- Get the kids to do something special for her, such as making breakfast or coming up with a particular song.
- A date with her would be a great way to get to know each other better. Restaurants, movies, or malls are all options.
- Make sure she has a good self-care routine, including a nice bath.
- You could take the kids out to give her some time alone (if she would like it).
- Make sure you speak her language of love.
Don’t forget to give your wife a nice day off if she’s a mother. Breakfast in bed is a good idea. Cook a little with your kids if you have any around.
The question I am asking doesn’t make sense to me. What could stop you from showing your wife how much she does as a mother? There are cards and gifts available for this “day.” I realize it has become commercialized.
Take a look at it this way:
The woman you love needs to be appreciated. Do you think you could handle it? By doing so, she will love you more, feel valued, take care of you more, and want to have sex with you more. Everything works out in the end.